I write in cafés all over the world about mastering your time, mind and sleep. As a Café Person since I was 11, I’ve christened my blog The Neo Café— for your dose of Mastering Your Psychological Capital, my signature blend of cutting-edge neuroscience, psychology and ancient wisdom– in plain English for busy high-performers like yourself who want quick and thorough solutions. My work’s available in 41 languages, and here’s how we can partner together.
A client slowly enunciates something she’s never dared to articulate before, “I am alot of hard work because of my anxious attachment, and must make up by letting someone else have their way all the time”.
We’d been talking about why she’d not articulate the…
One big question I get repeatedly as a psychologist is, What does one do after a substantial surge of growth? It’s a question I’ve asked myself over and over again, too, after my own bouts of growth. So, after refining this process for years,…
Love scamming is a toxic relationship. And when it comes to such relationships, it takes being in the thick of one to understand. Before then, people think “That will never happen to me, I will walk away as soon as I see the faintest…
The 5am Club. In this cult, it’s easy to see yourself as less of a productive or successful person if you’re not an early riser. Or, if you don’t wear the same clothes everyday like Steve Jobs or Mark Zuckerberg. I could go on,…
There’s a running joke amongst Type A personalities that we aren’t just Type A, we’re Type A+++. With that comes high performance, but the cost is often high-functioning anxiety, which we aren’t even aware of.
The Type A personality
In a word, Type As overachieve. We…
Clients often ask me, as a clinical psychologist, how I actually care for my mental health. Sure, I have my coaches and therapists, I take supplements and make sure to get my steps in, And yes, I’ll also tell you I don’t have all…
She pauses. It’s a radical new idea to entertain—something that turns her world upside down like a snow globe that’s been shaken, sending iridescent confetti everywhere. Ten seconds ago, my client hesitantly tells me, “I need to work harder to make amends for my…