I’m definitely not in the Facebook inner circle, but I learnt a very important lesson from the man they call Zuck, almost directly. Via a man called Noah Kagan, via an interview with my mentor Ramit Sethi. That’s 3 degrees of separation. Not bad.
If you’re a Facebook-er, then Noah Kagan lives and breathes in every status update you post and read, every business or group page you follow and the app you touch on your mobile devices. Back then, when he worked along Sean Parker (the Napster guy) and Dustin Moskovitz (the Asanaguy). Names that light the fire in geeky me. It was the same early days that set Facebook up into becoming the giant with infinite tentacles that it is today. And before Mark Zuckerberg became a household name.
The story goes. Whenever anyone pitched ideas, Zuck would go “Does it help us grow?”. Regardless of whether Idea A was a money-spinning machine or Idea Z was Oprah-worthy. It was about growth.
It dawned on me how we get carried away with our goals sometimes. Like, ‘becoming happy’ spins into ‘smiling more’ and ‘less anger’, and then morphs into ‘has gorgeous clothes’ and ‘a bigger car’. They’re great. But also distracting. We get excited, meander off-course, and get upset with ourselves for not achieving what we set out to do. So when creating change- building those new muscles of habit and breaking old ones- sometimes we need a Unifying goal.
Like Zuck’s “Does it help us grow?”, it’s a simple One Question we can ask ourselves. The constant beacon that shines from our lighthouse, no matter how choppy the waters get. Or when the moon gets clouded over.
- And so, in writing for this site, my One Question is “Does this help someone else?”
- In my business, “Am I creating a living I’m proud of (and won’t resent)?”
- In choosing what I do/think, “Am I acting like I’m worthy?”
What is your One Question that’s your Lighthouse Beacon in changing your life?
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